When I say ~ " I Love You! "
by Gary L. Rocha

Much has been written on Love ~ this is my adaptation on an article by Walter Rinder to whom credit is given here for the original:

When I say " I love you", I have made a commitment, freely and without reservation. I am sincerely interested in your happiness and well being. What ever your needs are I will try to fulfill them to the best of my ability. If I cannot (at the time) ~ I will tell you so. When you need to talk tell me and I will listen. When you need to hear me, tell me and I will talk. If you need to be quiet, tell me and I will be quiet with you enjoying your physical presence. In those moments when you need to be held, tell me, and I will hold you and embrace you in my love.
In those times when you need to release your emotions in the flesh, tell me, and I will lie naked with you that we may express that special love we have together.

I will be constant with you that you will come to understand the core of my personality, and from that understanding you will gain strength and security that I am acting as me! I may falter with my moods. At times I may project a strangeness that is alien to you which may bewilder or frighten you.  In those times, know that I am spirit having a human experience with all the changes that being human entails. In the spirit is where my love is and comes from ~ always to be with you. Know then that in these times of change it is only temporary; that the essence of who * I * am is still the one who says ~ "I love you!"

That which I sew is the harvest that I will  reap. Therefore in my loving you I will sew tenderness, kindness, understanding, compassion and all that I want to reap for myself. To what degree I am able to harvest the fruits of my labor is determined by the learning I have thus far achieved.

The love that is familiar and made known to me has come from my life experiences. It has been set in the examples that came from my parents, friends and significant others in my life. Life's circumstances and environments will also have been part of those experiences. It may be that my knowledge of love falls short of what you know of love! Teach me then what I have yet to learn by telling me ~ "I love you!"

I will give you the endless love that is within me, for I have learned that in giving I receive; that love grows when given freely. Love is universal. Love is the movement of life. I am a truly loving spirit. Let my words, if I must speak, become a restoration of your soul. But when speech is silent, I am projecting the great depth of my sensitivity. When I touch you, or kiss you, or hold you, I am saying a thousand words in a thousand different ways; I am saying ~ 

" I Love You! "

USEFUL  PHRASES (To Communicate With) I AM HAVING DIFFICULTY WITH __________  I WOULD LIKE TO SPEND TIME WITH YOU on SOME ISSUES. IS THIS O.K.    WITH YOU?   I AM CONFUSED ABOUT __________   I NEED YOUR HELP.   I AM NERVOUS ABOUT SAYING THIS.   I AM CURIOUS AS TO WHY YOU __________   I AM ANGRY AND I NEED TO TALK WITH YOU ABOUT IT.   I AM UNCOMFORTABLE ABOUT __________

In communicating on issues that are sensitive and the message to be conveyed has the potential to be misinterpreted it is wise to not start with the word "you" ...  Often this word will instantly invite a reaction from the one being addressed of being blamed, even if the intent of the speaker is not so. It is best to use a phrase something like: I GET/BECOME _______ WHEN YOU _____ It is always safer to prepare the other for what you wish to say, as illustrated in the second example of USEFUL PHRASES. Not always is the other person in the right frame of mind nor mood to hear ... in which case anything said not matter how carefully and diplomatically will be misinterpreted. Respect the other's wish and defer to a more suitable time. For the one having to hold back, it may be difficult in which case this is where it is important to have a support net where one could go to and safely release  the pressure!